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Old 02-18-2012, 05:28 AM
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I think it's totally normal to feel a little wistful and to still desire connection with lovers who have since moved out of out grasp. When you're poly and they're in a monogamous relationship, it's all the more wistful because you can see how you two could be together if it weren't for that one, silly rule they have with their partner (I'm not saying monogamy is silly, but it can feel that way when it's in the way of what you want!).

Is it friendship, is it romance... why try to categorize it? It probably doesn't fit neatly into any one definition. As long as you don't torture yourself over it, and can respect her choices, let it be the affectionate, somewhat-desirous friendmance it is.
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