Drtalon - Thank you for your post. While everyone seems to be focusing on something that I think is just a worry in the back of my mind and really dosn't stand out in my personality or relationship it seems to have made a venue for others to help me.
If you know this information its for a reason. This is exactly what I want. People who know ideas and have experience that I don't. I hope to learn from these things so I can get rid of my insecurities. I hope to be able to help Katie when she starts going thru things so I would like to hear more from the female perspective too.
You have provided me with a good way of thinking. I'm interested to know what brought you to your understanding.