I have to ask, how do you deal with the fact that he needs you to share him (won't leave his wife) but refuses to share you (isn't ok with you having any other partners)? I think the double standard there would just piss me off so much that I wouldn't be able to deal, all the other stuff aside. How is it ok for him to require something from you that he won't/can't give you himself?
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.