a very brave post and a really important way of sharing, IMHO. its easy to find a lot of advice on how things "should" be done, but its also important to be reminded that things don't always go the way we intend, people make mistakes, and there are consequences. i know for me, being currently in the midst of really strong NRE means that i am a prime example of what tristan taormino describes in her book "opening up" as someone with their "head up their ass". i can recognize this and see that it is happening, do my best to ground myself and keep to the agreements i have made, but ultimately have a really hard time pulling it out when the NRE feels like a really amazing drug. thanks for your post and for the reminders about WHY we make all these agreements...to ourselves and each other.
Gay 30-something female that just ended a committed relationship with a mono partner, Alex, and in the midst of NRE with a new lover, K.