Hi. I'm really new to these forums and...well, this lifestyle all together. I'm married to a monogomous man.
He's given me *me* guidelines.... a mutual friend of ours was well within my guidelines (ie: He groped me, jokingly). My husband has now decided that he's upset with said friend because said friend "betrayed" him (because the friend did not know he had permission...although *I* had permission to allow it). If I have permission, that's fine. But, the guys don't. They have to have the forethought to ask him. So, the guidelines of "You can kiss and grope anyone one you want; anyone you want can get you off, but you can't reciprocate" means.... the person in question has to talk to him first to make sure *they* have express permission. It's a bit confusing to me. Am I the one that's out of line, as he insists I am, or am I out of line thinking that he's going a bit overboard? I don't know what to think and I don't know what to feel.... It feels like he's saying "You can be polyamorous all you want, but I'm going to hold you to monogomy because anyone that touches you without my permission (even if they have yours) is a dead man."
"I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do, because I notice it always coincides with their own desires." ~Susan B. Anthony
Last edited by Seraphic; 02-16-2012 at 06:54 AM.
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