In poly, if one lover is lacking in some areas one is interested in, whatever that area might be (B movies, video games, singing, cooking new foods, hiking, etc etc., and/or sex and kink), we get to fill it with others. What could be better than that.[/QUOTE]
I think this is what most people don't get. It's like "oh you are selfish" or "you must be a nympho". When it reality it is that I love both my partners very much and I want them to be happy and fulfilled. It truly is about loving someone enough to want their happiness. It's about being mature enough to accept you don't have to love co-ed naked bungee jumping if that's what your husband is into. You might get lucky enough your boyfriend is and you get to take the pictures.