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Old 02-16-2012, 12:14 AM
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Originally Posted by openornot View Post
We talked last night and I told him I was open to him bringing someone else into his life. He swore he was not having a sexual relationship with anyone, and that he did not want to open the relationship because he was worried about him being jealous of my other partners. I couldn't bring myself to admit that I had seen the text messages, but I do feel like we made progress.
You need to tell him. You have assumed that a text message about getting together on Valentine's Day means he is fucking someone else. Maybe he is not, and maybe they are just friends, but maybe he is fucking her and lying to you. But you need to know. Your health is at stake. If he is screwing around you need to know whether or not he uses condoms and if you need to get tested for STDs. Come on now, this is serious. Wake up, take charge.
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