Wow, great points here.
nycindie, I see what you are saying... I don't know if I got identity and orientation mixed up, maybe, I am confused now
Correct me if I am wrong, but from what I understand, you are saying that you can choose both mono and poly situations and be fine with it. To me that is a lifestyle choice you have made. Others can't choose, they are poly or mono and that is that. That to me is different and something they are born with. Sure, it might be they grew into understanding that whereas you grew into being comfortable with and choosing poly. To me it isn't an option. I am poly and now that I know that I am relieved and feel whole. I figured something out about who I am that makes me feel sane. I might choose mono for whatever reason, but I am still poly.