Originally Posted by feelyunicorn
I feel it`s an identity, yes.
I was just having a conversation in the car with two co-workers, and they are both talking about marriage and I realize I had nothing to say. I didn`t identify
with any of their feelings.
So...I shut my trap!
Identifying with someone doesn't have anything to do with self-identity; it just means you empathize with them. Not feeling empathy for two people talking about marriage doesn't automatically translate to being polyamorous. Plenty of monogamous people are not marriage-minded, either. And plenty of poly people love being married. The fact that you couldn't identify with what they were discussing just means that you did not recognize, understand, nor share their emotions on the topic.