Sounds to me like you're doing well. Firm -- not letting it go -- but loving -- not trying to push him too fast. I found www.morethantwo.com
to be full of helpful essays when I was starting out. Good luck!
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.