Sounds to me like you're doing well. Firm -- not letting it go -- but loving -- not trying to push him too fast. I found www.morethantwo.com
to be full of helpful essays when I was starting out. Good luck!
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.