Originally Posted by feelyunicorn
I think jealousy is a good thing. It means I have feelings for someone.
I said something similar to this to my husband recently. When I feel jealousy, it means that I care about what the other person is doing. However, if the jealousy persists, I know there is an issue. When I get a jealous pang, I first think "well, that answers the question of whether or not I really care," and then I go on to examine my thoughts and figure out how I REALLY feel about the situation. Sometimes jealousy is just the natural knee-jerk reaction, and another emotion (envy at something you can't have, excitement, compersion, etc) will be how you actually feel about it.