Congrats to JJ! Well, congrats to everyone, really, things are going so swimmingly, it's great to see.
Gia and I had to work around the issue of her feeling very happy whenever she saw me, but also a little stressed at times for just the reasons you've described, Rory. It helped when I started bringing a book with me whenever I came over so that I could chill out and do my own thing while relaxing in her space and she, in turn, could relax and do what she needed to do for herself without worrying about keeping me entertained.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.