Originally Posted by jakester
My 'wife' has suggested that perhaps polyamory could be a solution to what 'ails' us.
Sorry, I haven't read your entire post but had to respond to this sentence as soon as I read it. Polyamory is not a fix-all for bad marriages or failing relationships. In fact, it would likely make everything worse. A relationship needs to be a strong, loving, healthy foundation upon which you can incorporate polyamory. Managing multiple relationships is challenging, time-consuming, and a real balancing act; nobody should be attempting to add more relationships to one that is on a downward trajectory. A relationship that is often "falling apart" and full of drama simply can't support living polyamorously. It should be quite obvious that "relationship broken, add people" is a very wrong-headed approach.