Originally Posted by RedNeck
I try to be positive to see if perhaps he would be able to be poly. .
He doesn't have to "be" poly to accept you being so. He might actually be monogamous but that doesn't mean it can't work. Wording can make all the difference when trying to open up your relationship. Some triggers can build disproportionately high walls if you don't pick your language carefully. Don't try to change him, try to get him to accept you