For the record I have nothing against polyfi or FMF triads. I just hate the insistence on a particular relationship structure when you haven't even met the person or persons you might be interested in yet. It just leads to so many painful and frankly silly situations. For instance, what if you guys do meet an awesome woman who likes you both a lot and you start dating but then in the bedroom she clicks with you but not with him and wants to date you but stay friends with him. Since it's not his magical-triad-of-sharing ideal does that mean you and she have to break up?
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.