Thanks for sharing November. As to asking for things, I remember a great line from one of Kurt Vonnegut's books, The Sirens of Titan
, on the last pages of the book. A female character has this epiphany:
"The worst thing that could possibly happen to anybody," she said, "would be to not be used for anything by anybody."
I agree. I can't think of something more dreadful then to be useless, and this is especially true if someone feels useless to the people they care most about. So when you ask for things from people who care about you, sure, they may groan at times, but you may want to keep Vonnegut's words in mind. Usefulness, ofcourse, can (and should) be used as leverage to get things that people want. But what people want doesn't have to anything tangible. Sometimes all they want is to feel useful and appreciated, or to simply feel that if -they- were ever in a situation of need, they would be helped.