Hello - just want to make a quick post to introduce myself to the group.
I have another name that I tend to be known as on the internet (my "nom de net
"), but since this is a public forum, I will not reveal it.
I am a 40-something living in Upstate New York, in a poly "V" with two wonderful ladies, one of whom I live with. I have had my struggles with coming to terms with being poly - feeling that I had to conform to society's norms and so on, and that caused quite a lot of internal turmoil. I discovered the term "polyamory" in the mid-90s and have been working on the details ever since to the point where I think everyone involved is happy.
My long-term partner is monogamous, so we have the archetypal "poly/mono" relationship, and my oso is definitely poly. I am very surprised as to how well we have been able to make things work in this setup. I have had several oso's and have found that as we have grown and learned, each one has been more successful and fulfilling than the last.
I am "out" with most of my friends, but with nobody at work, and not with my partner's family either.
Over the past few months I have been working with a bunch of friends to set up a more local poly online community for New York State, and we've been enjoying monthly dinner meet-ups for most of that time. We now have nearly 50 members, which is quite pleasing, since they are all from outside of New York City it feels like some "lost sheep" have found a home.
Anyway, I am looking forward to some lively and friendly discussions on here.