Originally Posted by sarahfina
my relationship with my secondary has developed significance and deep emotional involvement. (This is not the case between my husband and his secondary, which is mainly sex and activity focused with a friendship basis) My secondary and I are very similar and we are both having the experience of having needs met by one another that our primary partners have never met-
I can't really add much to the great advice already given in this thread but thought I'd let you know that you're definitely not alone and you've come to the right place. My own situation is VERY similar to yours and I'm still working on figuring out what's NRE and what isn't. Trying to figure out my wants/needs and expectations for this poly relationship hasn't been easy but this forum has been immensely helpful. Keep us posted..