Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
I'm a tough cookie. The impression I got was more of confusion than any implication that I was being silly or unreasonable.
Yes, that's the way I meant it.
Thanks for clarifying. The added context about your friend helped.
I do feel like there is a tendency to accuse people of making assumptions when they are just confused. (Without the added context, I was wondering if your friend was simply misunderstanding your situation).
Everyone does poly a little differently, and the same label can mean totally different things to different people. So assumptions will obviously happen-it's unavoidable.
And most of the time there's no reason to take offense at assumptions--it only creates situations where people feel they have to walk on eggshells to avoid making innocent assumptions.
Part of my issue is that I don't know for sure what my own views are since I am trying to figure that out...