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Old 02-04-2012, 04:44 PM
Naomi Naomi is offline
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Alberta, Canada
Posts: 13
Default Wearing your wedding/engagement ring

Hey guys! I tried a quick search to see if there were any other threads on this and couldn't find one... Please point me in the right direction if I missed it.

The question I wanted to ask is for those of you that are married or engaged and in poly/open relationships... Do you always wear your ring?

The main reason I ask is that if I'm wearing my engagement ring, the whole "Do you have a boyfriend" question won't even come up... Because they'll notice the ring and assume I'm married or engaged. If they notice the ring and make this assumption, it robs me of the opportunity to fill them in on the fact that I am actually still available... I don't want to be too obvious - as if I'm wearing a billboard that says I'm available - but I also don't want to give the impression that I'm off limits. I'd prefer it to just come up naturally but I feel as if a guy might notice my ring and have it deter him enough so that he wouldn't pursue a date or more intimate contact with me.

I'm trying a less... abrasive approach with men. In the past I've just had to be really upfront with men and pretty much just let them know I'm dtf and my man is okay with it. However, that takes away all the chase! I know men like to chase, and well, I like to be chased too! Since beforehand my man and I were only open to fuck buddies and no real romantic involvement, it wasn't as big of a deal and it was kind of the way I had to be - it wasn't about dating, it was just about sex. But now that we are also open to having other romantic partners, I think I'd like to introduce the whole dating and chase back into the mix!

Anyways, thanks for reading and I'd really appreciate it if anyone would share their thoughts or experiences on this.

The way I figure it, I'll wear my ring most of the time.. But maybe not when I'm on a first date with someone or specifically going somewhere in the hopes of meeting someone.
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