For now, we avoid the topic. My way of reducing the tension between us to just talk about everything else. Having been away for 3 weeks, theres lots to talk about, and it relieves any tension I thought there was.
For now, I'm not interested in reading any christian book, the same as she told me on the weekend she would not read any Richard Dawkins book. So there we are.
Yesterday we had lunch with a muslim who was bemoaning the fact the fiance would not do xyz during their engagement period.
So I used the opportunity to say that 2 adults dont have to follow tradition/culture. If the 2 adults agree to do something different, as long as they agree, then surely thats fine?
To my surprise, he and my wife agreed with me! A small result for me, but a slightly encouraging one.
Male M, struggling noob.