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Old 02-02-2012, 01:49 AM
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She sounds like she is approaching poly with a swingerish mindset around marking her territory, so to speak. I think it is just time you all sit down and renegotiate boundaries. Search the forum here for "boundaries" and "boundary negotiation," stuff like that, and see how others do it. Remember that you are all three individuals in relationships with each other, NOT an add-on to a couple - so don't think that it's only their rules that count.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/
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