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Old 02-01-2012, 07:06 PM
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Originally Posted by AutumnalTone View Post
Why are you adding more people to the mix when your relationship isn't ready for it?
Originally Posted by InfinitePossibility View Post
I wonder if it's just that you two aren't really ready yet for other people to be so heavily involved in your relationship?
Are these drawing on some additional information? I wouldn't think this issue to be severe enough to alone cause such a conclusion..

I think you should focus totally on your relationship with your wife. The other guy and their relationship is just not relevant. It doesn't matter (to your relationship) how much openness she has with him, it matters how much openness you and her share. It sounds like more openness is something you'd both like. Sure, you have more baggage, so it won't come as easy. That's often the case with an established relationship; you have to work to get rid of the baggage to build new. But it is possible to do that. Talk to your wife, make a commitment with her on working these things together, and have patience.
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