Overall question-I don't know.
I guess for me I don't care one way or another if someone is poly or mono-it really has very little baring on me. But I've been poly my whole life and for some reason that has always been a problem for the people around me.
I think in truth most of the "functional rules" are actually the same-but people are conditioned to think of them as different.
Great topic-hopefully with some time to think on it I can elaborate more!
"Love As Thou Wilt"