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Old 01-31-2012, 05:03 PM
Vinccenzo Vinccenzo is offline
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Default Playing favorites with metamours?

Has anyone dealt with feelings of opposition to your partner's new interest due to having really liked a previous one they have or had?

My husband had met a woman about a year ago that he really clicked with and unfortunately, she and her primary ended up having to relocate very far away for her partner's job. He still talks to her and really likes her. There has been talks of visits either here or there. She and I have established a really good line of communication. I like her quite a bit.

Husband had a rough time finding someone new locally after Happy moved and recently begun seeing RB. A month of talking and now a month of dating; he has so far enjoyed her company and intimacy. I've only briefly met her and found nothing unsettling in their interactions that he has shared or about her demeanor in the brief moment I've been around her. I don't know enough about her to have issue with her on any front.
He has asked her to come hang out at some point in the next couple weeks for a get to know you thing. I had no problem with this when it was time to do the same with Happy. Yet, I feel really un-enthused over doing the same with this new woman. I did not expect to be all pouty and have childish thoughts like "I like Happy and don't want to get to know someone new grumble grumble.....". I'm worried I will be standoffish and that's not fair.

I know is dumb and may even sound ridiculous. I'm trying to figure out what the root of this emotion is and how to get around it. I suppose I should just give her a shot and just stop thinking so negatively because I might feel different afterwards. I guess I just never expected to being playing favorites with metamours.
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