Originally Posted by alchemistwizard
My question is, how can I/we prevent it from happening again? Does he secretly want to be poly but won't admit it? How can we rebuild trust? I still really want to try a threesome, but now I'm afraid that this same situation will happen again. Does anyone have any advice? Thank you so much!!
You can't prevent anything, especially anything he decides to do. So get that straight first.
You won't know if he has any poly desire until it becomes a forthright conversation. No one on this forum knows if he's secretly poly either, because none of us reside in his head.
There needs to be an ongoing open dialogue for trust to be rebuilt. Between you and him. Everything laid out, including this situation with the other girl.