Originally Posted by lost
Please help! I'm feeling overwhelmed. Any opinions, guidance, feedback much appreciated.
I'll suggest buying a copy of Ten Days to Self Esteem. It's a workbook (It takes more than ten days to actually work through it). From what you've written, I'm guessing that workbook will do you a lot of good.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.