Originally Posted by ImaginaryIllusion
Ultimatums are one of those very heavy handed and powerful tools. They look like they can do the job in one fell swoop. The problem is that while they might drive the nail, the lack of finesse and control usually makes a huge mess of the entire project.
Thanks, very good advice. I'm going to let her work at things how they are comfortable for her. I guess I am still left wondering whether it is healthy for this type of situation as every poly relationship I have read about seems to be one in which all parties are at the very least comfortable being around each other, and it seems that this situation might be a "dead end". That has been my concern. I'm sure there are others out there that have started relationships with a mono partner and have gone through this. The other part to that is that I know that I could spend more time with both wife and GF if they could be around each other, and that I think would be the ideal for me.