Originally Posted by nycindie
How do you feel about saying something like that to him?
Honestly, I'm a little bit afraid. I do want to seem 'cool about it' rather than insecure...so guilty there. I don't like to admit my insecurities, I feel like that would make me annoying and whiny. I know it's advisable to be open and speak up...but I'm definitely a bit apprehensive, probably because I know in my subconscious that some, if not most of my fears, are likely unfounded.
The lack of foundation I mention is a lack of traditional commitment (ie. moving in/marriage) that's not on the agenda of this secondary relationship. He has a wife and a husband, I have a husband and we have 4 kids and 7 pets between the two of us...moving in together would be a logistical nightmare, lol.
I am glad to hear that some of you have carried on meaningful secondary relationships for multiple years...it gives me hope we can make it work too