Originally Posted by Anneintherain
Erm...not sure if you have read it yet, but that does kind of sound like it might be a case where the 5 Love Languages book could come in handy to start some discussion. He can let you know what you DO do that makes him feel loved and you can try to do more of that, vice versa.
I have just placed a library hold on it. Thanks! I came across Sternberg's "triangular theory of love" today and was planning to discuss that with my husband tonight. Those 3 parts are intimacy (emotional), passion, and commitment. Commitment is all I feel from him sometimes, although we have at other times had all 3. I've noticed I feel satisfied with only passion and intimacy coming from C, because I have all the commitment I can handle already. L has always been all three for me. And for all the heartache and confusion, I feel so, so lucky to have these three loving me the ways that they do.