Personally I like to know my metamours. I find that any assumptions I have are easily clarified and dismissed as something I fabricated in my head if I know my metamour, my partner talks about their life with my metamour and there is open communication. I don't need details, but an idea od feelings and basic story line of their life is very useful to me feeling comfortable in my world.
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