This is an awesome thread! Good info to think on.
Originally Posted by nycindie
He is not an add-on to your relationship, and owes you nothing. She is in two relationships and they each deserve their own space and privacy.
My two men are best friends. One is excessively private about everything, the other is private about almost nothing. I did ask Current bf, 'do you want to know and how much?' He knows First bf, and how much FBF values his privacy. CBF actually said 'whatever works for you.' FBF would like to pretend that I am not still CBF's girlfriend, I think. Although we do still talk about him.
So, even though there is not sex in all four relationships (in this emotional triad, sexual vee), there definitely are four relationships. [me with FBF, me with CBF, CBF and FBF, and the three of us]
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