Originally Posted by Moonglow
I read these after my husband told me. Very interesting. I was talking with a friend about it yesterday and he said, well that's a very self centered way to live. I never thought about it that way but he said...yeah you get your cake and you get to eat it. I guess the glass is either half full or half empty.
True, laugh :-). I don't think there's anything wrong with being self centered, which I suppose is the polite way of saying selfish, with one caveat; it all depends on how you define self. Someone who defines themselves as only their own bodies would generally be defined as the most "selfish". But what if you were to define yourself as you and your family? Not so selfish anymore. If your sense of self encompasses your community, one is seen as even less selfish. When one gets to the point that one feels that everyone on the planet is a part of their selves, the difference between "selfishness" and "altruism" become meaningless.
Anyway, back to what you were saying about your friend's comment :-). Basically, that's only true from a limited perspective; that is, one can certainly imagine that many men would like to be able to be with more then one woman at the same time, but for anyone who's seen a certain amount of "Big Love", trying to keep more than one woman happy at the same time can frequently be quite the challenge. And this is only taking into account things like an FMF relationship. As people familiar with poly know, that's certainly not the only way it can happen.
Personally, I wouldn't feel right about wanting to share myself if I couldn't share my own (theoretical) partner, but I know that different people have different tastes. On the note of different types of non monogamous relationships, has anyone seen this?:
I thought it was awesome when I first saw it :-)