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Old 01-24-2012, 11:39 AM
Trimbat Trimbat is offline
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My relationship with my husband is my foundational relationship.


That's crazy well-put, and thank you for posting your story; I found it very helpful!

I've been doing a lot (lot lot) more reading on this, as well as reaching out to some friends both online and off who have more experience with polyamory than I do, and it's been an instructive few weeks to say the least.

If I can say that I've learned anything *definitely*, it's that it takes work and a fanatical devotion to honesty and clarity to make sure that each person's needs in a relationship are being met -- whether those needs are attention and a feeling of security, or space and a feeling of freedom -- and the only proper way to go about it is to recognize and treat everyone involved as an individual, with feelings, agency, and the right to have a voice in things that affect them.

Thank you all again, very much. I'm definitely sticking around here to read, like, everything.

-TB
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