Originally Posted by nycindie
Never heard of a stoplight party before. I guess it could be fun, but I hate labels so much I'd be afraid that people wouldn't talk to me just because I'm wearing the "wrong" color. I've already had that experience at poly gatherings where people walk away when it's clear I'm not into randomly fucking just anyone. Their loss, of course, but the whole idea kinda takes away the point of a party, I think.
That makes it more appealing to me. After all, by doing that, they show that they aren't worth a fuck and I don't have to spend more time trying to figure that out.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.