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Old 01-23-2012, 03:22 AM
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Also, if you asked a kind and thoughtful poly person to "save" a certain weekend or event to be focused on you, and to take a break from any other dalliances while you were with him at a certain event, he would at the very least consider it, rather than dismiss your request and say you were stifling him. He could sit down and offer a compromise, such as only allowing one evening out of three days together to hookup with someone else, and devote the rest of time there with you. Or some other arrangement that you could say you'd be comfortable with.

That's what communication, negotiation, and making agreements are all about. It's not enough to just say, "This is what I will do, so deal with it."
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