Originally Posted by ImaginaryIllusion
I really hope that this whole exercise is designed for your own benefit. ... If you're doing it because of the ex...or for the ex...I really don't think his actions in the aftermath of your relationship put him in a position to deserve such consideration, nor his opinions whatever they might be about your character. He'd have to be in your league first.
I agree 100% with this. You're just really seeing their true selves, but that doesn't mean you should compromise who you are for anyone else. If someone treats me horribly and attempts to squash me down, I don't owe them a thing! Especially if they have a downright nasty need to hurt me or "teach me a lesson," AND their words and actions clearly show a huge misconception about who I am and what's important.
Fuck anyone who pulls shit like that, and the high horses they rode in on! Seriously!