Originally Posted by fuchka
when you feel abundant love for someone, you may emotionally "net in" the other romances/bromances etc of theirs: you are attracted to those who are attracted to those who attract you
I was just thinking about this little snippet of comment from Fuchka, and how true it seems to be in my life. If you are vitality important to someone who is vitally important to me, then how can I not want to fold you into my tribe? By loving and protecting you, my loved one's loved one (whether metamour, family member, or friend), I protect my own heart from the dangerous destabilization that would occur were you to exit the equation.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.