Originally Posted by BaggagePatrol
Yes, it bothers me for sure - was hoping to find someone who'd say, "That totally happened with us..." There are no magic answers though, poly is a smallish community, so finding large average of people who've been through this might be tough, I guess. Altho mags seems to think that it's pretty standard, so maybe I'm wrong about that one.
Omigosh, yes, there are tons of threads here by people who have gone through the same or similar issues as you are now. The phrases and words Mags suggested can be searched either through the Advanced Search or Tags (see bar at top of each page).