Yeah, I'm also very confused by the notion of agreeing to homosexual encounters when both partners identify as heterosexual.
Was this some kind of "compromise" compared to what you had really wanted?
I never liked compromises much. Seems like everyone loses in most of them. I prefer discussing things to death until we are both on the same page. Of course, it helps that we both sincerely want the other to be happy and to experience everything life has to offer. So it's like, we both always win. It's pretty awesome.
“As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.” —bisexualbaker