Well in my case, we had been friends/lovers for over 5 years. He used to live here up until this past summer. Now he is where he has always wanted to be he says, he was homesick. I am not going to be able to stay there any more than he will stay here. It is funny, I had my first poly relationship and I think he was surprised that I asked for it. After that one was over he lobbied hard to be the replacement and finally when it started to happen he ended up getting moved to another place. Even now I was working on a particular project and he used to be on that project. Just kind of like close but no cigar. I don't know if these are signs but I don't know how it will be. I do miss him alot.
I really appreciate your responses.
They seem very thoughtful.