I just want to say thanks to the OP and the responders here. This thread is helping me immensely. In particular, the bit about the INTJ and the bit about reaching out with excitement is not seen as needy by some. !
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own...
Robert A. Heinlein
Me: female, bi, (formerly hinge of a vee)
with FirstBoyFriend (FBF)(moderately long-distance)
and no longer with CurrentBoyFriend (CBF)(who now lives in a house far away-with stairs I can't climb)