Originally Posted by Icewraithonyx
My first reaction to the thought of Wife's physical intimacy was also extreme discomfort. (Actually, I think the idea of emotional intimacy worries me more.)
I had a similar reaction. I was angry at first, followed by fear. Basically I was just afraid of her losing feelings for me and dropping me for someone else.
After much assurance from my lovely Jess, we both started looking at the lifestyle to get a general feel for it. Gradually I became less anxious and more comfortable with the relationship dynamic. Baby steps you could say, was somewhat of a need for me in order to calm down and breathe.
Throughout this experience I learned to shed the previous monogamous philosophy that was rigorously brought upon me by my family and others I knew.