ForestFloor, I think you and hubby should
RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
She is toxic and a manipulator.
I don't think you even owe her an explanation nor anything else. She's a grown-up, so let her take responsibility for her life and her own mental health.
Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership.
Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy!
For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
~ Carl Sagan
Last edited by nycindie; 01-18-2012 at 07:52 PM.