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Old 01-14-2012, 07:05 PM
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Originally Posted by gwendolenthefair View Post
He does think she is being unreasonable because, like me, he believes that fluid bonding is a safety issue, period.
How is it that she is being unreasonable then? Just because you've been tested and had clean results (but haven't had the follow-up tests yet)? That isn't always enough for a partner to feel safe. Is she supposed to say, "oh, all righty then" just because it's good enough for you? And because you two won't accept her reasons for not going bareback? Wow, I can't believe how selfish you are.

You are still refusing to see how much you and he are vilifying her. You seem to think you are more important than she is. You are being quite callous by siding with him against her, and somehow have talked yourself into believing that's okay.
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