Welcome to the forum. I highly recommend reading about "Triads", "Unicorns", and "Unicorn Hunting". There is a lot of material about that; here are some links to get you started. You can use the Advanced Search function to find other topics that might interest you.
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showp...7&postcount=10
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showt...hlight=unicorn
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showt...hlight=unicorn
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showt...hlight=unicorn
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showt...hlight=unicorn
And here is a link to the Search result from which I gleaned these links:
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/searc...5&pp=25&page=3