Hello and welcome.
Sorry but I am confused. Are you saying that you just started to get to know your husband after you married him in a more romantic/physical way? If so, did you wait on purpose for the wedding night? Will your boyfriend do so as well? But why would he want sex with you if he has got a girlfriend himself and isn't married? Or are they already? But he can't be a virgin any more if that would be the case ... How long do you know each other?
As you may notice, I seriously don't get your story at all at the moment. Maybe I am slow on the uptake here, but this doesn't make much sense to me at the moment.
Facts: 30, female, bi, v-type relationship with Sward (husband, straight, mono) and Lin (boyfriend, straight, mono), poly-fi and co-primary.