I can't stand it when people can't/won't just say what's on their minds even when they're directly asked. :/ It sounds like you're doing everything you possibly could to invite dialogue, it really sucks to do that and feel like you're not getting something back.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.