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Old 01-12-2012, 06:02 PM
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Originally Posted by awakeandready View Post

The majority of the time he simply acknowledges it, acknowledges that he is wrong, and tells me he feels like a shithead for what he's putting me through.
Acknowledgement and acting on the knowledge are two entirely different things, the anger issue needs to be addressed with or without your continuing the relationship with the other couple...NOW.

I have no certifications but have led several group meetings centering on anger management. His act of acknowledging "he is a shithead" is a disarming tactic and as long as you allow this behavior it will continue. The scary part is that nearly all unresolved anger issues eventually escalate. You also have to understand that the continued use of anger is most often less a vent for emotions than it is an attempt at psychological/emotional control.

I put on my flame retardant suit and I can take the heat but these are my very informed opinions! John
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