Originally Posted by LadyLeStrange
I was also thinking that maybe seeing a marriage counselor and working through this with a professional might help? What do you think about that?
Absolutely. There are lists of poly-friendly therapists out there. You deserve not to be walking on eggshells, not to be afraid to even talk about the possibility of equality in your relationship.
It's great that he's gotten better, but the behaviors and attitudes you're describing still seem pretty not ok to me. Who has so little perspective or sense of fairness that they think it's ok to have completely uncontrolled jealousy about other guys, while simultaneously primping and obviously crushing out on another woman?
A neutral third party could only help. Good luck.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.